80 Missed Calls: Why a father-in-law's intense childcare became a burden

The show featured honest discussions from participants regarding the subtle conflicts between in-laws and biological parents, as well as their differing approaches to childcare.

"Why is the baby crying?" The father-in-law's 80 missed calls

The broadcast introduced an anecdote where a father-in-law's passionate support for childcare actually became a massive burden and source of stress for his daughter-in-law. The participant revealed that after she had her first child, her father-in-law, who previously had no interest in childcare, changed completely upon the birth of his granddaughter. As the participant was busy with her professional life at the time, the father-in-law decided to take charge of the childcare; however, lacking experience, he became greatly flustered by even the smallest changes in the baby and contacted her constantly.

In particular, it was revealed that while the participant was attending a gathering with acquaintances, the father-in-law left approximately 80 missed calls because he believed the baby was crying for no reason. Recalling the situation, the participant confessed that while she understood her father-in-law's intentions—believing the baby was crying because she missed her mother—the sudden influx of calls and differences in childcare methods caused her relationship with him to gradually drift apart.

"No need to brush teeth": A grandfather takes the grandchild's side using news reports

The image of a grandfather so enamored with his grandchild that he cannot discipline them also became a hot topic. The participant shared a situation where she attempted to discipline the child for refusing to brush her teeth, but the father-in-law took the child's side, claiming, "There are news reports stating that brushing teeth every day is not good." The participant added that while she shed tears at the time because her childcare principles were being undermined, the father-in-law's eccentric response eventually led to a moment where she burst into laughter through her tears.

Biological mother vs. mother-in-law: Realistic choices in childcare help

Following this, the participants shared realistic concerns regarding whether it is better to leave a child with biological parents or parents-in-law. One participant explained why she requested help from her mother-in-law, citing her biological mother's health status and childcare style. She specifically noted that the meals and dedicated care provided by her mother-in-law were a significant help, highlighting the practical differences compared to leaving the child with her biological mother.

Another participant drew attention by expressing the view that since the child follows the husband's surname, the responsibility for childcare should also be primarily considered by the side providing the surname. The participants reached a consensus that while leaving a child with parents is a difficult and guilt-inducing decision for anyone, choices inevitably vary depending on family environment, geographical conditions, and the health status of the grandparents.