"If she's pretty and capable, why would she meet me?"... Omar's realistic theory of relationships

A realistic analysis has emerged stating that the factor determining the sustainability of a relationship lies in the 'balance' of filling each other's deficiencies. In a video released on the YouTube channel 'Omar's Life', the presenter offered unique perspectives on dating and relationships while answering viewers' concerns.

"If she's pretty and capable, why would she meet me"... The Triangle Theory of Relationships

Regarding a story about the difference in values between a man who is diligent in self-development and a girlfriend who is not, the presenter presented a 'triangle model.' He set three virtues that he considers important and then developed the logic that one must choose only two of them.

The presenter expressed that "if the girlfriend is pretty and good at self-development, (from the man's perspective) it's psycho," analyzing that a partner who possesses both looks and capability may lack the 'desperation' to sustain a relationship. He pointed out that "if a pretty girlfriend is diligent, she will leave me," noting that if the partner possesses both looks and capability, the reason or role for the man to stay by her side may disappear.

He added, "If she is pretty and kind, she already has herself and money (economic power), so working hard in that area could mean she does not consider you as her final future partner." In other words, the explanation is that the reason a partner does not engage in self-development may be due to environmental factors, such as not feeling the need to do so because the partner by their side is living diligently.

The reason high-income men do not look for the partner's economic power

The dynamics of a relationship also appear in terms of economic power. Regarding the phenomenon where high-income men earning an annual salary of over 100 million won do not look much into a woman's economic capability, the presenter analyzed, "There must be a part that I can fill for this person to be with me."

He said, "In cases where a man is evaluated through his capability, the fact that the woman does not earn money works in his favor." When a man monopolizes the economic role, a deficiency arises in the partner, and that deficiency becomes the driving force that maintains the relationship. He emphasized that for the fusion of a relationship, roles must be divided, saying, "If she is pretty, kind, and even earns money well, there is no hole for me to fill."

"Don't choose people, decide what you can tolerate"

Ultimately, advice followed that to form a healthy relationship, confidence in oneself must precede the criteria for choosing others. The presenter suggested that rather than meeting numerous people, identifying what one can tolerate (Tolerance) is the way to reduce wasted time.

He said that one must set a priority of values that they can accept, such as "I am okay with her not earning money," or "Even if her personality is bad, it's fine if she is pretty and capable." He concluded that "this is my own standard and there is no need to force it on others," stating that a 'near-approximation of self-confidence' regarding one's acceptable range is necessary.