"Don't Be Honest": Omar Explains the Necessity of Social Masks

Sometimes, a 'social mask' plays a more important role in maintaining relationships than being truthful. In a recent live broadcast conducted on the YouTube channel 'Omar's Life,' sharp insights were delivered, starting from dating concerns to attitudes toward human relationships.

The Danger of Saying "I'm Acting Like I'm in Love"

The story began with a viewer's concern. It was a story about a boyfriend of about three years saying, "It feels like I'm acting like I'm in love," leaving the viewer confused as to whether the relationship had simply become comfortable like friends or if the love had faded. Regarding this, Omar pointed out the context of such a statement, noting that a state where excitement has disappeared and 'confessing that one does not love' are entirely different issues.

Omar explained that it is natural for all couples to experience a decrease in excitement over time as emotions shift toward familiarity and comfort. However, he stated that telling a partner directly, "I don't love you, but I am acting like I do," is a problem on a different level. He warned of the danger of voicing emotional changes as they are, saying, "Saying that you don't feel excitement is something you can say when breaking up, not something you can say in daily life."

"A Social Mask is a Manual for Survival"

Omar emphasized that wearing 'pretense' or a 'social mask' is an essential skill for the smooth flow of human relationships. He acknowledged that anyone can live harboring thoughts that are not honest or even terrible, and said that not revealing them as they are is the duty of a social being.

"The world is usually like this. When you are invited to a friend's house, it is normal social behavior to say the food is delicious and force yourself to eat it even if it doesn't taste good," he argued, emphasizing that the core of a relationship lies in what words one chooses to say in a situation rather than the truth. He added, "Being honest is not always good. Rather, it is much safer to wear a social mask and prepare smooth remarks."

Firm Advice: "I'm Not Curious About Your Bare Face"

Omar advised that one should prepare a 'magazine of words' for social life. He suggested that one needs the quick wit to provide a socially smooth response without being flustered in unexpected situations. For example, his logic is that when a friend's child does not meet expectations or when an acquaintance's food does not suit one's taste, it is important to possess 'social comments' that can smoothly navigate the situation rather than telling the truth.

He proposed, "I have no intention of showing my bare face to you, and I am not curious about your bare face either," adding, "Let's please promise to live wearing social masks." His conclusion is that having appropriate pretense is a way to be considerate of those around you and protect yourself, rather than showing all your sincerity.

Source: original video (YouTube)